paperllama a dit :oh gosh that sounds horrible :( are you all right?
waterloggedtomorrow a dit ::( :( You should find better people.
:) Thank you! But don’t worry, I am indeed all right, and I do have better people. (These facts are related.)
It’s really just this one person, and I guess the problem is that I care about his discomfort as an emotional state I’m partially causing, but I don’t care about his discomfort as a moral judgement of me, and the two are kind of hard to separate, so there are occasionally these exhausting conversations that go around in endless unhelpful loops. This one was actually more resolution-y than most, so, maybe we’re done with that now.